Flatmate stereotypes: The ‘antisocial hermit’

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Ever lived in a house or flatshare? You’re most likely familiar with a variety of typical roommate types. We’ve mashed together the traits that make up the ‘antisocial hermit’ type below, 1 of 5 common flatmate stereotypes we’re covering in the next few weeks.

The ‘antisocial hermit’ is the social recluse of the flat, the one who you’re least likely to see going about. Instead this type of renter will likely be hiding in their room doing who knows what, on their own. No matter how friendly you are, inviting them to house parties or pub outings – they’ll always find an excuse not to socialise with everyone else.

Pro’s

  • They’ll never make any noise or cause any agro, instead keeping themselves to themselves
  • Having them in the house is similar to having a ghost as a housemate, they’ll pay their share of the bills but it’ll be like they’re not even there
  • Looking for easy small talk with your roommates? Discussing the mystery of what the ‘anti-social hermit’ gets up to in their bedroom makes for interesting conversation

Con’s

  • If you want to live in a social share house, they’re letting you down big time by always hiding away like Golem from Lord of the Rings
  • They won’t want to contribute to communal shopping, instead choosing to have their own personal supply of loo roll etc

If you live in a small flatshare with only 2 or 3 bedrooms, this is not the flatmate you want. But in a larger house of 4 + rooms, they may well be appreciated – by contributing to the bills whilst keeping the house from feeling like chaotic student halls.

If you aren’t the anti-social hermit housemate in your flatshare, perhaps you’re one of these other classic flatmate stereotypes:

  • The ‘uptight parent’ flatmate stereotype
  • The ‘popular party animal‘ flatmate stereotype
  • The ‘awkward couple‘ flatmate stereotype (coming soon)
  • The ‘lazy freeloader‘ flatmate stereotype
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    Epic roommate movies and flatshare films

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    Roommates and housemates sharing a room, house, apartment or flat is a brilliant plot or sub-plot for a movie. Check out these famous (and not so famous) films that involve shared living:

    Stepbrothers

    One of Will Ferrell’s best movies. Two middle aged, socially awkward ‘losers’ who still live at home, must become roommates when their parents get married. A great film to watch with your housemates on a hungover Sunday…

    Shallow Grave

    A Danny Boyle film starring Ewan McGregor that is sadly unknown by many outside of the UK. Three friends must choose a new flatmate to move in. Things start to go a little out of control when some startling surprises are uncovered. A fantastic black comedy that made the way for the infamous ‘Trainspotting’…

    The Night We Never Met

    A humorous movie that tells the tale of disgusting roommates who don’t get along, the search for love and affairs. Three individuals agree to a ‘time sharing partnership’, allowing them each to use 1 apartment on preset days for their own ends… Showing it’s age but still a great watch.

    Notting Hill

    An absolute classic from the late 90’s, starring many a girls crush: Hugh Grant. A couple of chance encounters between a bookshop owner (who’s forced to live with an annoying flatmate) and an international superstar, leads to a flowering (but challenging) relationship. A perfect choice for a girls night in.

    Shaun of the Dead

    An awesome british comedy horror, starring Simon Pegg. Three housemates must survive a zombie outbreak in London, providing a perfect opportunity for Shaun (the lead character) to prove himself to his mates and ex girlfriend.

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    Flatmate stereotypes: The ‘popular party animal’

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    If you’ve ever lived in a flat share or house share, you’ll most likely recognise a bunch of common housemate personalities. Here’s an outline of the ‘popular party animal’ type, 1 of 5 flatmate stereotypes we’re writing about in the coming weeks.

    The ‘popular party animal’ is the young’un roommate of the house, the one who acts like a big kid who’s eaten too much birthday cake. Very rarely if ever will you see them on their own, instead they’ll be surrounded by a bunch of mates, either on the way to or from a social event. Sometimes you’ll wonder how they’re so popular, and never seem to stop – are they an undercover celebrity on coke?

    Pro’s

    • If you’re terrified that it’s Friday afternoon and you still don’t have any social plans for the weekend – don’t fret, this type of renter will sort you out with a party invite
    • Lacking friends after moving to a new city? No worries, they’ll get you introduced to loads of new people in a flash
    • They alone will have the contacts to turn any house party into the social event of the year

    Con’s

    • Front door slamming at 5am in the morning, followed by a loud rauckus in the lounge? They never stop, and keeping noise down will be near impossible
    • Even when they do crash for a few hours, their friends won’t be far away, often choosing to sleep in your living room, meaning you or other housemates can’t relax on the couch until they’re gone
    • Constantly having randoms round means extra mess and food going missing

    Despite their non-stop socialising and random buddies causing many restless nights, it’s hard pushed not to appreciate their out-going nature when in need of some great banter.

    Not the ‘popular party animal‘ housemate in your flatshare? Maybe you’re one of these other classic housemate stereotypes:

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    Choosing a new housemate: Who do you want to live with?

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    Choosing a new housemate is understandably an important issue. After all all you’re inviting them into your home, trusting them not to break or steal any of your stuff. You’ll want to make sure you make the right choice, based on what you and the rest of your flatmates are looking for:

    Friends vs strangers

    Initially it can seem like a dream come true: living with your best mates / favourite work colleagues. But think about what the transition from friends to housemates means. Just because grabbing a coffee or beer with them is always a laugh, doesn’t mean you’ll necessarily get on living together as flatmates 24/7.

    Inviting random strangers to move in may seem daunting, but if you make the right choice you’ll have the opportunity to make new friend groups.  A compromise could be friends of friends – this way you’re not risking existing friendships, but they’ve been vetted already by people you trust.

    Age

    Are you looking for somebody of a similar age, younger (to add more energy to the houseshare) or older (to bring more responsibility to the house dynamics)? Often having a mix can work well, although too large an age gap may sometimes lead to differences.

    Younger people are usually more forgiving over late night noise and mess compared with older housemates who are often (but not always) more mature.

    Gender

    Do you want to keep your flatshare an all lads / all girls affair, or live with guys and girls to mix things up? From our experience a balanced house is best, so sticking to an equal number of male and female flatmates / roommates is definitely worth considering. This way you’re more likely to avoid catty arguments or too much male machoness from taking over.

    Girls will usually make the flat feel more homely, whilst guys will be there to help with heavy lifting / DIY tasks, this may sound a bit sexist, but it’s often very true.  This also means you’ll be able to avoid specifying a gender in your flat advert, which could be illegal!

    What are you / they looking for?

    Make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to the type of flatmate you’re looking for / flat they’re searching for. For example: are you / they looking for opportunities to socialise, e.g. a pint at the local pub from time to time, or are you / they simply wanting to keep themselves to themselves, contributing to bills and rent only.

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